SYL - Week 13

Checking in

This week for SYL we are revisiting our goals, checking in to see how we are going. Week 13 - Checking in

When I first read that it was a week to stop and look back, reflect and evaluate, I took a nice deep breath in. This was a good week! One where I didn't have to confront any demons or tackle any of the big issues. Boy was I wrong!!.....

My first goal was to do with my relationship.

Goal 1 - To repair, strengthen and enjoy my relationship with hubby.

Mini goals were to spend one night a week technology free. Just hubby and I reconnecting and finding ourselves again.

I must admit that we did this once. The first week. It didn't even go that well, we just didn't really know what to do and I'll also admit that it was hard for me to not be on the computer and it was harder for Trav. I really want to keep this goal exactly as it is but I think we need a little more structure to that night. We need to have a set time to have the kids in bed and we need to have already decided what we shall do. Maybe we can plan something earlier in the day and then save it for when we have time to ourselves.

So goal 1 is definitely still a goal. I don't think it is the most important goal, I have realised that it sits in second place because Trav and I spend some time together but I spend MOST of my time in the house which is why goal 2 is actually my most important goal now. The house/home environment is my biggest bringer of frustration!.....

Goal 2 - To declutter and organise the house so it can be maintained easily.

Ok goal 1 was also broken down in to mini goals. The first one was to organise one room at a time, make it manageable. This bit we are on track with. The bathroom and toilet are under control and have been for a few weeks. When I walk in to a clean bathroom, I get a sense of calm and relief. I have also noticed that when I ask one of the big kids to take the dirty clothes to the laundry or wipe the basin, they don't even complain and I think that is because it is a simple task. There is no giant bathroom monster hiding in there somewhere! It is just one tiny job that is simple and easy so they do it and it is one less thing on my list.

The second mini goal was to write a list of the chores to help us all see what needs to be done and to help keep on top of everything. I think I had just written this one and totally forgotten about it. I am going to write this list this week and stick it up for everyone to see and use. They can tick off jobs, possibly even earn points if we can work out a system and a reward. Things like that work so well with the kids.

This was part of the closing of my goals blog...

So in the next few weeks I would like to have this house running like clockwork. A bit of hard work to start with but hopefully the habits build and I can get in to a great routine and end up having tons of free time to relax and enjoy all our hard work.

It has been 7 weeks and I am a little sad that my house isn't running like clockwork but at least I am working on it. Parts of it need a lot more work and I think my biggest problem was that I wrote the goals and then didn't revisit them enough. I am going to print them out or write them somewhere so I can see them a lot, just like my vision board.


Another problem I have is that to achieve my goals I need to rely heavily on other people. This is difficult when the other people don't share my want or need to fulfil the goals. They understand why I want these things but they don't necessarily want or need this stuff for themselves. We all have different priorities and I know mine are very different from Trav's. We will get there. We have made some progress from the week 6 challenge and I know that I have made amazing progress within myself.

Onwards and upwards! :)